The trending social media debate on whether or not or now no longer a woman must step up her game to propose to a man she finds attractive has been happening for quite some time now and what I observed unexpected were the wide variety of women who have been actually prepared to embark in this thought spree without thinking about the vital implications and precautions.

There’s an antique English Adage which says,  “the bone doesn’t go in search for a dog however the dog instead goes in search for a bone" . Let me now no longer pretend, I used to consider the trending “women propose to your boo ideology” however upon 2nd thoughts I observed how it might do us ladies more damage than good if we conformed to this new trend. Picture those two scenarios, “a beautiful young lady is going down on her knees, pulls out a ring from her clutch and pops the question to her intended boo who reacts through jumping and screaming out “YES I DO" . “A young pretty lady in her mid twenties has known this gentleman for quite some time now. They’re quite close and communicate to each other quite regularly but the guy hasn’t got the nerve to ask her out and one day, she walks to him and say ‘Daniel, I’m truely in love with you and I want you to be my boyfriend' . how does these two situations even come to play in the first place? They’re absolutely wrong in each perspective! I mean it’s okay to drop a few tips here and there to signal the man in question that you’re prepared for some devoted action in order for him to confidently follow suit.

Enough of my runnings in circles, now, listed underneath are my personal reasons why no lady should ever propose the idea of being in a relationship or maybe marriage to a man!

 Trust me ladies, the man you’d boldly walk up to express your feeling of love to will be the first to call you names when things start to turn sour. You’ll never be good enough for a man who isn’t ready for commitment so going up to him to pop that question might only put him in a really tight and ugly corner with your desperation particularly if he’s the “Mr. Nice guy” type of person and isn’t bold enough to turn you down. He could feel pressured to simply accept something he’s not prepared for and GIRLS. Be rest assured that you’ll forever be the subject of discussion for him and his buddies when the ‘issue of a cheap and desperate lady is being discussed’. 

2. YOU LOSE YOUR WORTH AS A LADY   What’s more beautiful than a man walking boldly to the lady he’s admired for years to express his feelings Be it through a kiss, a long intimate conversation, through text (which isn't always quite proper and advisable) etc? It creates a feeling of importance and appreciation within the lady and in addition, it confers some sort of prestige and honor on you. Don’t listen to those friends who’re pushing to propose to that dude because you’ll only end up being in that mess alone at the end of the day. Just keep dropping tips, STRONG and OBVIOUS tips he’d by no means have a purpose to doubt your desire for him.

  ladies; let’s focus on the guys for a second shall we? We usually desire to have them appear manly and able to make bold choices and rise up for themselves but the moment we initiate a decision as ambitious as being in a devoted relationship, we switch places with them and turn out to be making almost every decision that comes with it because the whole journey turned into “your idea in the first place.” The guy now becomes at liberty to do anything he wishes and you will need to control and tolerate him and all the nonsense he cooks up for you because you’re now the MAN and he’s your Woman!

  There is a purpose why, God created Man before creating woman out of the rib of man for companionship sake. When Adam woke up from his slumber and saw Eve, He shouted; “This is the bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh.” This clearly shows how Adam was trying to use all of the vibes and lyrics in his ancient vocabulary to entice Eve into his love den and Eve being the first woman would obviously drop a few tips to offer Adam the Go ahead and confidence to approach her.

And to my very last point.

5. TO PREVENT ANY FUTURE “I didn’t need this in the first place, you did” .
  In as much as Women are considered natural ‘shock absorbers’, it might be undeniably heart breaking to hear your man say to you in the midst of a misunderstanding that “this relationship wasn’t my idea in the first place, it was yours.” Sister girl! Regardless of how strong you feminism is, you heart would certainly miss a beat. Back at the University of Lagos, I overheard a gentleman tell his friends after having an issue with his woman, “Elizebeth nags too a lot. She’s always complaining about things should have been this way instead of the other… I really don’t know what she wants from me but I can’t keep up with that, after all, she was the one who proposed to me.” I wasn’t the girl in question but my heart was really broken after hearing a man disrespect a sister before his friends.

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I rest my case!

Adeniji Oluwapelumi is a Relationship, Literature & Lifestyle Blogger, Vlogger, Social Media Influencer, Social Media Manager/Strategist, Advertising Agency, Content Creator, Travel lover, an online crawler, an introvert, an extrovert and a witty writer. He loves nature and creativity.

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